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Introduction:
Frank Dukes, director of the Institute for Environmental Negotiation at
the University of Virginia, tells a story that illustrates what a profound impact
genuine listening may have.
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This rough transcript provides a text alternative to audio. We apologize for occasional errors and unintelligible sections (which are marked with ???).
Listening and Empathy
Frank Dukes
Director, Institute for Environmental Negotiation, University of Virginia
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Q:Is there a particular instance in your work that has touched or inspired you?
A: I think there are a lot of them. I'll tell you a couple very short anecdotes. One is when I have been asked to facilitate a meeting around a
landfill that had substantial community opposition. The authority that was
managing the land fill needed a plan for what they will be doing with those
cells as they close them down: are they going to cover them up, or are they
going to use them as soccer fields? What would be an appropriate use for this
land? I contacted some of the people that were opponents to the landfill to say,
"Here's what I've been asked to help with, and the reason they asked me was
because of this conflict between the landfill and the neighbors." I say,
"Does it make sense and is this going to be something that you're going to
be interested in?" I remember someone who called me back on a Friday night
and I really didn't want to talk after a long week, and take time away from my
family, but I also remember saying that if this is something that he really
wants to do then I'll do it. I basically spent about an hour listening to what
his concerns were, and what he thought was happening due to the leakage from the
landfill coming into what he thought was his land, and killing his cattle and
making them sick and so forth. After an hour, I said, "It must be really
hard for you." That was extremely moving for this individual, and he said,
"You're the first person who's ever listened to me." He'd been
fighting the country, city and county for about two years. He'd been to many
public hearings, he'd contacted many different people and I'm sure that people
had listened to him, but not in the same way, not without judgment, not trying
to understand. That was an example of the power of listening and understanding,
and it was another example to me of why it's important for me to make time to do
that, because I almost said, no, I can't talk to you now.
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